Off the Bench and Onto the Playing Field- Sixty and Dating Series Part 4

Oh my, I'm into the game now, the dating game, that is. And what did it take to do that? A Clear intention --for the highest good--and follow-through! Oiy! you say! You know all about intentions...I thought I did too. In fact, almost every book I've read on relationships has "Having a clear intention to have a healthy loving (add your own qualifiers here) relationship/partner" as one, if not the first, step to do if you realllly want to be in a relationship.

After dabbling with different intentions, talking it over with friends and mentors to understand what the "clear" part of the clear intention actually meant, I finally got that being "clear" about my intention meant I had to be willing to put my body, emotions and mind on the line to get involved and participate in saying Hi!, flirting, and meeting men--just for starters. It also meant seeing the "fun" in this process and at the same time grokking that all that will take place can be for my higher learning and unfoldment. Hmm, no mean trick here, but making all this "fun" NOT serious, is the biggest key.

Also, adding the "for the highest good" part brings in the higher or spiritual caveat to my intention. How? This brings the "bigger view" into play. I may not on my own be able to see or get what is truly for my and their (the guy's) highest good/best interests on all levels. So by asking for "the highest good" I can detach from the results (which also makes it more free inside of me and way more "fun").
The follow-through is the action part- the moving forward, the doing those things that keep me on the playing field, starting with just saying Hi and smiling to a hunk that I might normally look away from.

It ain't rocket science after all....who knew?!

Just like in any game it's practice,  practice, and more practice, starting with appreciation time with myself in my inner locker room or dugout. Before I go out there, I'm taking time to look in my eyes and see the me who's precious, joyful, fun, loving, sassy and full of light. I breathe that in. I take the time to love and value myself first, then it's out onto the field to engage in the learning. Now the field might be walking into Urth Caffe or going onto PlentyofFish.com (yeh, yeah, what a name, I know...and it's free!)

 I love when I make a hit, and there are times when I strike out. Ouch! And it's back to the dugout to write down what I observed. This is also super too...recording my learnings. There's a lot of fine-tuning and at-tuning to what is true and lined up for me in this game ....it's a veritable goldmine for self-revelations and conscious awareness in loving. Does it take courage to jump in? Yes! and the resulting vitality and aliveness is so worth it. AND the best part-- it's FUN!!! So the playing field is open. Batter up?!