Being Alone with the Lonely One - Sixty and Dating, Part 3

This is a great quote that a kind friend passed onto me today from Oscar Ichazo - "Enlightenment is being alone with the lonely one." As I contemplated this wisdom, some other words "Loving your enemy inside - Can you face an enemy and say 'I love you?'" from John-Roger's book, Spiritual Warrior came to mind.
And POP! the virtual lightbulb went on!

In my choosing to date and open up myself to a deeper and more conscious, loving, fulfilling partnership, a maturing up seems to be happening too. Just the simple act of filling out several of these on-line dating profiles and responding to questions from internet prospects is having me repeatedly asking myself "Who am I?" "What do I really want in a relationship?" "Am I worthy and lovable enough to have a relationship?" "WHY?"
Great questions!
I decided to look and see. Takes a lot of courage to do a personal inventory-major kudos to all those in any "12 step program." I'm finding old fears, conditionings and negative beliefs, some conscious and some unconscious, are percolating up from under who knows what rugs, drapes and lids that have held them in place. Aspects of myself that I had disowned, denied, judged or just plain disliked and had made them enemies are coming forward for me to embrace as part of accepting and sharing myself as I am. "A house divided cannot stand" is true. The embracing brings a unique gift too. As John-Roger eloquently puts it: "Once you truly embrace the dark side, it turns to help you....all the power that was blocking you before now become the power of ascension, of upliftment...you don't have stubbornness, you have determination."

So I spent time today with that one that feared to be lonely. I cuddled her. We were alone and all-one together. And do you know what I found? Tranquility, peace, beauty and lightness. So gird your loins or whatever else you want to gird and have fun excavating and embracing...it's all good news!