Discernment vs Over-Pickiness

Recently I read a book called Marry Him: Setting for Mr. Right Enough. by Lori Gottlieb. I got several good insights as I read through the book that apply across the board towards whatever goal I'm going for.

First, whatever I've been doing has gotten me what I have so far. Therefore it's probably time to change something in my approach.

Second, though I have wants what are my needs relative towards my goal. I may want a man who's 6'1", is a banker and likes good cooking and watching sports. What I need is someone who's fun, thoughtful and reliable. So identifying the essence I'm going for is more core to achieving my goal. As I view it discernment has a lot to do with my paying attention to my needs. Over-pickiness tends to show up when I dwell in my wants/desires.

Third, hold in my mind what I want more of, not what I want less of. Identify any plusses.

Fourthly, enjoy what I'm doing right now to the fullest. Enjoy my life as it is. This is what's present, what is happening right now. When I'm enjoying myself, who I am is present and fulfilling.

Fifthly, like tends to attract like. Though I might not recognize it at first, so take a good look and work on myself first. I can change my own lack in any arena into fullness.